A True Classic
I love this film. I love it and part of me wishes I had never seen it. The reason I say that is because I identified with it a little too much. It really hit home. Like Tom, I am someone whose idea of love and the way love should be was largely based on my taste in sad british pop music, movies, and television that I loved growing up. I also had a yearlong on again off again relationship with a woman that dresses and looks very similar to Summer. She was married and divorced already by age 26 and had given up on the idea of love and shared Summers cynicism about love. She was upfront with me that she was really just looking for friendship. She played hot and cold. She dumped me and broke my heart. Her name is not important. But you should know…she is a bitch.
Ok.Now that we got that out of the way, I can say this is one of the most truthful films I have ever seen. Funny, sad, depressing, and uplifting all rolled into 95 minutes. The performances in this film are great by Zooey Deschanel and Joseph Gordon-Levitt. The alt-rock hipster soundtrack is also a standout.I didn’t want to write this review to summarize the entire movie but I just wanted to point out a couple things that haven’t been mentioned in other reviews.
I feel that Tom and Summer both needed this relationship and this experience.This film is so moving because they both learned a lot from each other and needed to become a little more like one another to become successful in future relationships. Tom and Summer had much in common when it came to music and pop culture taste but were very different in the way they viewed the world and their expectations about love and relationships. Tom was way too much of a romantic. He becomes attached way too quickly(not that I blame him, I love Summer)and puts Summer on a pedestal and all of his romantic idealizations and expectations on her.
Summer, on the other hand, is way too cynical and closed off to the possibility of love due to her parents divorce. She is a realist but needs to be a little more of a romantic like Tom. I don’t feel like she would have met someone else and given them a chance if she hadn’t spent her time with Tom. Tom did manage to knock some of her shield down. Lucky for the next guy that she was more attracted to. Not so lucky for Tom.
Tom goes through a lot more heartache than Summer but I feel it was something he needed. It forced him to quit his job and chase his true talent and passion of architecture. I also feel Tom will take this next relationship with Autumn as it comes, much like Summer did with him and perhaps it will work out better for him because of it. Tom should have realized with Summer that if you have been hanging out with someone for several months and sleeping with them and they are still reluctant to call you their significant other that something is off. Hopefully he learns from this experience. I think this film was really about the last important romantic relationship that these two people would have before they met the people they would spend the rest of their lives with.
I also really enjoyed the part in the film where the narrator says that most days just come and go with no real lasting memories. So True. We remember the good stuff. Even in failed relationships there are a few moments of great joy that seem to remain etched in our memories. There was for me with my version of Summer…and I will always remember and cherish the night we danced all night together and I wanted that night to go on forever and ever…even if my Summer turned out to be a bitch.
Okay, just a few brief gripes about the movie.
-Summer really does treat Tom carelessly at their co-workers wedding. She was well aware that Tom loved her and she should have mentioned that she had met someone rather than putting him through the emotional hell of inviting him to what essentially turned out to be her engagement party. She danced with Tom and reminisced about their relationship and fell asleep with her head on his shoulder on the bus. I would have liked her character better if she wouldn’t have led him on this way.
-I don’t believe that even if Summer did fall in love and meet a guy who swept her off her feet that she would plausibly be engaged in just over 3 months. I feel that someone like Summer who had divorced parents and such reservations about marriage and love would not get engaged that quickly even if she was feeling it. I think it would have been more realistic to have her just have met a new guy rather than be engaged that quickly. And how fast did they get married? Did they just run down to city hall or what?……but these are just small gripes in such a fantastic movie.
This post was submitted by Derek G.